Seeking union, realization of Truth, becoming that which one truly is, victory over self is the effect, not the sought. Union, realization is the only true victory; the lesser passes away. The battle is identification - identity of self. The lesser gives way to the Real, the Greater, or holds its own - for a time - eventually giving way. One battles in action, in mind, in heart. Intention provides the weapon. The fight is in the clinging, holding on. It is a life or death struggle, for only one can live. Either self of separation or union. One sets oneself to die before dying. The clinging to life of lesser overcome by Truth.
First the body, then the mind, finally the heart. The true battleground fought with purification toward union, leaving the rest in ashes. The phoenix rising, reborn, reunion, remembrance. This is the victory of heart over self.
In love there is no holding on. Giving all toward Oneself, Being, Life; and toward that from which all issues forth and returns. Identity changes, perspective grows. Catch the Breath of Heart, Love Infinite, and ride that steed as the surrender of self leaves no thing left.